New Year Announcement

I’m preg­nant. That’s right, you heard me. To be per­fectly spe­cific, my girl­friend Deb­bie is preg­nant. I’m going to be a father! We’re going to be par­ents! This wasn’t expected or planned, but we both want chil­dren so we’re mak­ing the best of it. This news explains the inter­mit­tent noise amid all of the radio silence here lately. We’ve been mov­ing in together, break­ing the news to our fam­ily, and doing some seri­ous psy­cho­log­i­cal adap­ta­tion to our new roles. She’s 15 weeks along at this point, so we’ve had time to get over the ini­tial shock and get excited about the actual birth. The due date is June 20th.

I’m not too good at keep­ing a secret and I would have felt like I was lying to post con­tin­u­ously with such impor­tant news kept in the bag along with the cat. We heard the heart­beat the last time we vis­ited the doc­tor, and a sono­gram will show up in a few more weeks. Deb­bie had pretty awful dawn-​to-​dawn morn­ing sick­ness for the last three months, but now that it is fad­ing away a bit every­body is less stressed.

Entertainment RoomWe spent Thanks­giv­ing with Debbie’s par­ents and Christ­mas with my fam­ily. Christ­mas week was a flurry of dri­ving and it was good to get back into town, espe­cially since, while we were gone, I had wood floors installed in part of the house. I still have to put down quarter-​round and grates for the ven­ti­la­tion, not to men­tion work on the walls in the main entry room, but at least two of the room feel like home now.

New Year’s was cel­e­brated with a cou­ple of friends and a tense game of Star Wars Monop­oly. You’re pretty much caught up. I’ll now take a few questions.

Comments on this post

  1. phil

    wowza. con­grats man! sorry we never got together over christ­mas though. we need to find a time to do so, although im sure you are going to be super crazy busy for awhile. june 20th huh? only awe­some peo­ple are born that day (yes that is my birthday) 

  2. genevieve southern

    Con­grat­u­la­tions Adam!

    Coin­ci­den­tally, Patrick and I are expect­ing just 4 weeks ear­lier (due May 25th). We get the big ultra­sound and find out if it’s a boy or girl tomorrow.

  3. phil

    wow. con­grats man! that is fan­tas­tic. and in case you were won­der­ing, only awe­some peo­ple are born on june 20th (yes, thats when i was born). sorry we didnt get together over christ­mas. we will have to find a time to do so at some point soon, when you arent crazy busy.

  4. andy

    imho June 20th is an awe­some day for a birth­day. Sum­mer sol­stice. Kinda like Christ­mas in June.
    Wish­ing Deb­bie and you the best.

  5. jmay

    con­grats Adam and Deb­bie. Good luck in get­ting ready. If you need any tips on how to get an old house ready for kids, I’ve got more than a few. If you want any child proof­ing tested, I’ll bring Michael over. He’s man­aged to defeat 95% of the child proof­ing meth­ods that we can come up with. He’s a smart, agile, strong lit­tle guy.

  6. Meagan Call

    HOLY CRAP! Con­grat­u­la­tions Adam, I stop by on a whim to see how you’re doing and read this… wow. We should hang out some­time please… Matt’s send­ing you invites to eth­nic eat­ing get togeth­ers but I’ll bet it’s going to your junk pile. The future mother of your child is obvi­ously wel­come too. Send me an email sometime? 

  7. Neal

    Con­grat­u­la­tions old friend. Best wishes to Deb­bie and your­self. Here’s to a healthy and happy baby, mother, and father come June. More specif­i­cally, June 23rd, the best day of the year, of course. (Hey, if phil can cam­paign for his b-​day, I can for mine.) Once again, congrats!

  8. Lori

    Con­grat­u­la­tions, Adam and Debbie!

  9. Shea

    Your father loves you and talks about you all the time. He is upset every sin­gle hol­i­day because you are not there. You owe it to your upcom­ing baby to let that child have a grand­fa­ther who is won­der­ful. He con­stantly shares sto­ries he remem­bers about you with my two boys, who are his grand­chil­dren. Your an adult now and should know that things are not just black and white, when you are mar­ried to some­one you dont love, its hard to act happy around them. Its also easy to make mis­takes as a par­ent. You will learn that soon enough. Your time has come. I hope your child never dis­owns you the way you have done your father. I dont pre­tent to have walked in your shoes, but I have known Don for the past 13 years, as an adult myself, not as a child, and he is a good per­son and he loves you and wants to be a part of your life. He is proud of every­thing you have ever done, so dont ever ques­tion that. We always hear about how great Adam is doing, when he hears some­thing from some­one else any­way. I hope you will give your dad another chance Adam and judge him by the per­son he is now, not the per­son you remem­ber as a child when your par­ents were divorc­ing. That would be a bad time for any­one. You cant make a life­long deci­sion based on the times your par­ents had it rough together. My boys are 7 and 10 and they love your dad. I hope your child gets to meet him and see what a great grandpa he can be also. For your sake and your dads. He loves you Adam with all his heart. For­give­ness is so important!!!