Saturday, 3 May 2014

I have some very wise friends. One of them has man­aged to dis­cern and ar­tic­u­late an un­der­stand­ing of who I am that I, in my sub­jec­tiv­ity, can­not. I am too close to my­self to see all of me. I have been able to ap­pre­hend bits and pieces, but never com­pre­hend the whole. Some as­pects for change have been put to me, in words care­fully cho­sen, but that are es­sen­tially: Be less sen­si­tive. Be less se­ri­ous. Take less re­spon­si­bil­ity for oth­ers.

I’ve been pretty damn sensitive/​serious my whole life, and a re­spon­si­bil­ity-taker since about the time my par­ents di­vorced. The se­ri­ous & the sar­casm have been an too ef­fec­tive ar­mor for the sen­si­tive. My ten­dency to as­sume con­trol of any sit­u­a­tion has been borne of my ar­ro­gance and im­pa­tience. If there’s a goal, I don’t have time to wait around while every­one dithers about who should be in charge or how some­thing should be done. I’m about praxis over ped­a­gogy.

The way this combo has played out in my per­sonal life is that it is nearly im­pos­si­ble for any­one to get to me. I’ve iso­lated my­self, which has only made the sen­si­tive bits more sen­si­tive. I’ve for­got­ten the mean­ing of my fa­vorite piece of the Tao Te Ching on my About page.

The pos­tures and per­for­mances I as­sume for other peo­ple are a coward’s walk. I have pre­tended so well that I even con­vinced my­self. So I am be­gin­ning the work of re­mov­ing my ar­mor and ac­cept­ing im­per­fec­tion. It’s prob­a­bly go­ing to take awhile.

Karma Repair Kit: Items 1 – 4

1. Get enough food to eat,
and eat it.

2. Find a place to sleep where it is quiet,
and sleep there.

3. Reduce in­tel­lec­tual and emo­tional noise
un­til you ar­rive at the si­lence of your­self,
and lis­ten to it.


from The Pill ver­sus the Springhill Mine Disaster by Richard Brautigan

From the Tao

Tuesday, 25 February 2003

from the Tao Te Ching (50):

A per­son comes forth to life and en­ters into death.
Three out of ten are part­ners of life,
Three out of ten are part­ners of death,
And the peo­ple whose every move­ment leads them to the
land of death be­cause they cling to life
Are also three out of ten.

What is the rea­son for this?
It is be­cause they cling to life.

I have heard that
One who is good at pre­serv­ing life
does not avoid tigers and rhi­noc­er­oses
when he walks in the hills;
nor does he put on ar­mor and take up weapons
when he en­ters a bat­tle.
The rhi­noc­eros has no place to jab its horn,
The tiger has no place to fas­ten its claws,
Weapons have no place to ad­mit their blades.

What is the rea­son for this?
Because on him there are no mor­tal spots.